Most of us are extremely hard on ourselves.  In the privacy of our inner thoughts, we spend a lot of time judging ourselves harshly, pointing out our failings, and beating ourselves up for every misstep.  We say things to ourselves, about ourselves, that we would never utter about someone we loved.  And this dark voice in our heads contributes to depression, anxiety, low motivation, and relationship troubles. Most of us[…]

Many people come to my office looking to “fix” themselves. They seek a change that will somehow bring them a sense of happiness or wholeness. They often have already worked hard to escape their anxiety or depression to beat their bodies into shape to transform their relationships or throw themselves into one project after another. Yet they inevitably find that all this effort has left them feeling disappointed and empty.[…]